|Old Hollywood-style portraits and Insta-booth by F27 Photography. I re-wore one of my best thrifted finds- a Jay Godfrey sample piece I found back in NYC.|
I am now officially 30. I still can't believe my 20s are over, but I am really looking forward to my 30s! Some loved ones and I decided to throw a 20s-style birthday bash to celebrate and I just realized the unintentional symbolism behind it- once the night was over, I waved goodbye to my 20s, forever. I know, it sounds super cheesy but there is truth behind it, right? Anyway, the party was crazy-last-minute shenanigans, but in the end I think most of us had a blast. My BFF flew down from NorCal for a good 22 hours to join the fun, what a trooper she is; I really am blessed by her friendship. We picked her up that morning and had brunch, caught up by reading our old high school notebook letters while getting ready, and probably dilly-dallied a bit longer than we should've, because the clock started ticking away quickly and before I knew it, I needed to start prepping food. Around this time, my sister and a few other buddies came by to help. I am the worst procrastinator, and I thought I was actually on top of things this time. For some reason, cooking tasks seem less complicated and quicker in my mind to perform than in reality. I do this more often than not. By the time dinner rolled around, half of the party jumped in to have a share in the madness. Being the hostess, it was a bit embarrassing to not have my game on, but I was amazed to see how eager everyone was to help. It pretty much became a collaborative project. I promised myself that the next time I throw a party, catering would be involved...
Seeing some of the old and newer faces in our home that night reminded me of the friendships the Lord has blessed me with during different stages of my life. Leading up to that day, I was going through a whirlwind of emotions, a pre-mid-life crisis situation I suppose, re-evaluating current and past relationships. I am naturally an optimist, but when pessimism hits, it tends to take over and leaves me stricken with sadness and grief, especially when it comes to my friendships with people. If friendships were investments, I am a gambler, or perhaps too trusting. I tend to throw my love, time and energy into people far too easily. Maybe I'm too vulnerable, but I truly enjoy giving to those that are near and dear to my heart. On the flip side, because I feel as though I've invested much, when things take a turn, I can become deeply hurt or grow to be resentful even. This is something God has been revealing to me, particularly this year.
As we grow older, our time becomes more and more valuable. With each intimate relationship - a significant other, spouse, child, aging parents etc., there are more people in our lives that naturally demand most of our time and attention. Throw a full-time job in and time is not on our side. A result of that is less time for other friendships, at least compared to when we were growing up in high school and college. For that reason, I'm realizing that I need to not throw my care around. Life really is too short for me to constantly dwell on the past. My focus needs to be on the people God has currently placed in my life, and to not dwell on the drifted or lost friendships. Otherwise, I have little love and energy for the ones right in front of my nose. I cannot change people and everyone goes through various stages in life. Sometimes space is good for a friendship, and if it can withstand that time apart, the friendship may have been deeper than one may realize. If not, at least time was able to reveal that.
In a perfect world, we would have many close, intimate relationships in our lives. However, we all know that is not typically possible. Most of us are lucky to even have a handful of people we can truly call "friends." And they aren't the ones that are only there for the good times, but even more available during the bad times. With that said, I can only hope that I can grow to become as good of a friend as some of my amazing friends have been for me.
Cheers to a new decade of love, laughter, lessons and LIFE!
|Accessories from loved ones : )|